Do you choose your friends or do they choose you? Sometimes we meet someone and there seems to be an instant connection. Other times a friendship may grow over time. Everyone needs at least one true friend. Someone you can call to share the good and the bad times in your life. True friends are a gift.
What about toxic friends? There are people who bring you down, instead of lifting you up. That doesn’t mean that a friend can’t talk with you about an issue in your life that you may want to think about changing, but this should be done with love. A toxic friend doesn’t want anyone to be happy or have a positive attitude. They may also be someone who gossips about everyone and does not keep a confidence. If someone is talking about others that person is likely also talking about you. Fake friends are people who pretend to like you, but have a hidden agenda.
Being chosen as a friend can also take a downward spiral. One of the categories of stalking I talk about is an obsessive best friend. This person wants you to be their friend to the exclusion of all others and gets upset if you interact with other friends. It may be someone who goes in and out of relationships and calls you constantly because they are so unhappy. They may have other issues that they constantly share with you.
This can escalate to another level in which the person begins to wear the same outfits you wear, buys the same car you own, decorates her house like yours and tries to become you. Why? Because they don’t like themselves and want to become someone else, that someone is you. I’ve been involved in cases in which the ex-girlfriend wanted to become the new girlfriend since she is now with her ex-boyfriend. Unfortunately, the examples I have listed are not illegal, but they can be very irritating. There may be enough for a criminal charge if the person is following, calling constantly after being told not to make contact, and similar acts.
Choose your friends wisely. You may have co-workers, acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors and other people you interact with regularly. Appreciate your true friends as they are a blessing.